I recently had a conversation with a client who was feeling out of alignment with her district leadership’s decisions and actions. This is a common experience for many school leaders, where you’re given instructions that don’t sit right with you, you feel disagreement and frustration percolating, and you don’t understand their thought process.

Coaching up is a tool that will help you navigate difficult conversations with anyone who has positional authority over you. If you want to advocate for your school community while reducing conflict with your superiors at the same time, coaching up is the secret to igniting awareness and getting everyone on the same page.

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Why are student behaviors so intense this year? Why does pressure feel like it’s at an all-time high right now? Why are teachers and staff members so discontent? Why does this job feel harder than ever before? Why is this all happening?

These are some of the questions principals and district leaders are asking themselves and presenting to me as their coach. Our brains love to stay swimming in questions, but in coaching, we don’t let questions go unanswered. That’s why this week, I’m showing you how to deconstruct and actually answer the questions you’re asking yourself right now.

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One of the most common themes I hear in my conversations with teachers, support staff, district leaders, and site leaders is that they feel unappreciated. Feeling unappreciated can show up in a variety of flavors, so it’s time to dig into what’s truly going on.

There is no amount of reassurance that other people can provide us with that will generate the feeling of appreciation. Feeling resentful for going the extra mile or like you’re being taken advantage of is an extremely disempowered way to lead your school. The good news is your leadership experience doesn’t have to stay this way because appreciation is always an internal job.

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I was working with a client recently who was feeling triggered, frustrated, and defensive because a member of her team has been showing up in a way she considers inappropriate. It’s a difficult situation when one of your teachers isn’t meeting the standards of your school culture, but I believe the solution lies in understanding emotional literacy.

If you’re having trouble dealing with a staff member who isn’t showing up the way you expect them to, today’s episode is for you. We often believe that the way our staff behaves is a reflection of us as a principal, and that doesn’t feel great. You might think it’s your place as a leader to fix other people, but there’s a better way to approach these uncomfortable scenarios.

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As a school leader, you are a public figure. As a public figure, people believe they have the right to scrutinize you for any misstep or mistake you make. This is something you may face at some point in your career if you haven’t already, and it can be an extremely scary experience.

We are wired for connection and belonging as humans, and being publicly scrutinized can make us feel like we’re being ostracized and isolated. I want to reassure you this week that it’s okay to be a human who makes mistakes and show you what you can do when nothing in your external world feels safe.

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