On the show last week, we dived deep into our brain’s predisposition to blaming other people for how we’re feeling based on their words and actions when really it’s our thoughts about a person’s actions that dictate our feelings. Toward the end of that episode, I mentioned boundaries and how it is possible for people to overstep into our emotional or physical space, which blurs the lines of blame.

I’d like to explain more about what I mean by this and how identifying when this is happening is crucial for us in remaining empowered. Boundaries are us taking responsibility for our own wellbeing – and make no mistake, that responsibility belongs to us.

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Do you always take responsibility for the things in your control? Most likely, you’re avoiding it at least a little bit. It makes sense why we want to resist or avoid responsibility when we hear that we have to be answerable and accountable for something within our control… nobody likes having too much accountability in their lives.

Surprisingly, I used to think that I wanted to be care-free and flexible and just do things whenever I want to do them. But I’ve learned that by taking responsibility, I actually have way more freedom and way more joy. If your desire to avoid ownership of your actions is holding you back, fear not because I am here to help! I’m going to give you the tools to identify when you’re skirting-around culpability and show you how this behavior stops you from contributing to solutions.

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It’s that time of year when you’ve been working hard as a school leader for months, summer is on the horizon, and your workload is mounting. We’re wearing down, our staff is getting tired, we’re getting tired, the kids are getting tired… and many administrators start thinking about… quitting.

I want to explore what is happening in our minds when we think about leaving our job and whether getting the hell out is really the right call for you. We’re going to utilize what we learned last week about awareness of the essential self and the social self to help decide what the right outcome is for you in this situation!

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When you think of what you value in a leader, what comes to mind? What I find is that most of us just want to feel appreciated by those in leadership positions. And in my experience, I can unequivocally state that showing up every day exuding positive energy made an incredible impact on my teams.

This episode is all about how we can consciously choose to show up with enthusiasm and how that shift can help those around us feel more appreciated. I share what a difference it makes when we choose to bring enthusiasm into our work as educators. Even if you don’t consider yourself an “enthusiastic person,” you’re going to learn how you can create that energy for the benefit of the people you work with.

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Previously on The Empowered Principal Podcast, we’ve spoken about action and inaction. Today, we’re looking in depth at a big part of that subject: procrastination. Procrastination stops us from getting things done, not least because playing a game on our phones, in the moment, brings us palpable satisfaction.

We all procrastinate at some time or another when we should be taking action. In this episode, I’m diving into the reasons why we genuinely think procrastination is bringing us pleasure. I also share some tips for identifying when we’re procrastinating and how to overcome it using the same thought process that your brain uses to allow you to procrastinate in the first place. Read more