Hello, my empowered principals! I hope you’re relaxed, enjoying your summer vacation, and maybe planning for the start of the new school year (or maybe not just yet!). Having some well-deserved time off is a good period to consider some major questions about your leadership and the way you approach your job, and I’m kicking it off in this episode!
As a leader, feedback and criticisms are something you’re going to experience fairly frequently. How you deal with these, however, is completely up to you. It’s easy to get caught up in the cycle that is people pleasing, but today I explore the difference between the feelings of guilt and shame and how they can be entirely optional!
Does giving your alone-time make for a job well done? We can feel like our boss demands more of our waking hours than we really need to give, and we go along with it for fear of looking uncommitted. The same thing can happen with our friends and family, creating an obligation that doesn’t lead us to more productivity or better relationships.
As the school year is about to break for summer and holidays are around the corner, I’ve been thinking about all the changes that have been going on in my life. Today, I share a recent experience I had with a long-time friend and how our conversation sparked this week’s episode.
As an educator, you spend your time running around after students and teachers alike, sometimes it can be difficult to take a step back and really acknowledge the amazing work you do and how it makes you feel. Well, it’s the end of the year – you made it! You’ve been a school leader for the whole year and now is the time to sit back and reflect on a job well done.
When you’re having a bad time at work, do you find yourself pointing the finger of responsibility at the actions of the people you work with? We’ve all been through the scene – we’re talking to our friends and making our work environment sound like everyone is out to make life miserable for us – that we’re somehow the victim and there is something fundamentally wrong with everyone who makes us angry.
Welcome to The Empowered Principal Podcast. Every tenth episode, I am paying tribute to my greatest teachers and influencers. And with this being the 20th episode, I have some words of gratitude for one of the people who has been a huge influence in shaping my journey as a coach and my life as a whole – the awe-inspiring Dr. Martha Beck.
We generally have an idea of the kind of principal we want to be when we finally receive the news that we have achieved the position. It’s usually exactly what we ourselves appreciated in a leader before we made it to the top. But it can be challenging when your vision and expectations don’t match up with the results you’re getting in your school.
I don’t think there is a human being on this planet who looks forward to receiving criticism. As school leaders, everything we do is scrutinized; by parents, students, and staff. It really is part of being a principal that we know all too well.
On the show last week, we dived deep into our brain’s predisposition to blaming other people for how we’re feeling based on their words and actions when really it’s our thoughts about a person’s actions that dictate our feelings. Toward the end of that episode, I mentioned boundaries and how it is possible for people to overstep into our emotional or physical space, which blurs the lines of blame.